Wednesday, September 11, 2019

False Stalking and Perjury Charges against David Bellow DROPPED – Texas Rangers Investigating DA Bob Wortham for Corruption and Official Oppression

False Stalking and Perjury Charges against David Bellow DROPPED – Texas Rangers Investigating DA Bob Wortham for Corruption and Official Oppression

My name is David Bellow and I have been vindicated and am telling my story of corruption in Jefferson County, Texas. I am happy to announce that the horrible, politically motivated false charges against me of Stalking and Perjury have been completely dismissed (Click for Dismissal Orders Here: Perjury, Stalking), and now the Texas Rangers have opened an official criminal investigation against Jefferson County and Corrupt District Attorney Bob Wortham for abuse of office and official oppression against me with District Attorney Robert Trapp being appointed attorney Pro Tem as Special Prosecutor (Click Here for Texas Ranger Report of Investigation obtained through an Open Records Request).

I used to be very active in the political world, standing up for what I believe is right and fighting to expose corruption. I frequently blogged and wrote articles and got involved in the political process, even being elected as a political party official. Back in 2014, my now ex-wife started leaving my one-year old son in cars in parking lots while she had an affair. I was told of the affair and of my son being left in cars and I did what any parent would do and I went to that parking lot and got my crying and hyperventilating one year old son from that abandoned car where he was left alone. I went home with my son and then tried to set up marriage counseling as a reasonable non-violent person would do. We went to what we thought was Christian Counseling at First Baptist Church Beaumont where Texas Licensed Counselor (and pastor) Larry Walker’s not so Christian advice was to suggest divorce instead of reconciliation attempts, and he even suggested a divorce lawyer on standby in the church. That is unfortunately the sad reality of many churches who are falling away from faith and family values. This is important though because it is the first instance where the State of Texas opened an investigation into what would be a long excruciating story of corruption in Jefferson County. The state began investigating the professional counselor license of Larry Walker for such things as not reporting suspected Child abuse or neglect as required by law after hearing of my son being left in cars in parking lots. During the divorce and child custody proceedings that followed, there were no accusations against me. I was a good father involved in my son’s life and I was never accused of being threating or abusive, and in fact, my ex-wife signed multiple under oath sworn statements stating that I had never committed family violence and she was only seeking a no-fault divorce. However, she didn’t want our son to have me as a father, which is similar in many custody battles in which people allow hate and bitterness for another person to rip children from loving mothers or fathers whom the children need and deserve equally, which has created the greatest societal crisis of our time with the effects of single family homes and children without fathers being well documented and catastrophic for the children involved and for society as a whole (Click here for government statistics: I, however, intended to fight for and protect my son and be in his life as his father. In fact, I had the upper hand in the custody case as my ex-wife had admitted in sworn testimony to being violent towards me and leaving our son in cars while she had affairs. That is when her attorney (who was also the attorney for the church where the counselor was under investigation) started to pull out some tricks against me to delay justice. For instance, If you try to sanction the other side with petty complaints such as turning over discovery items a day late, then you can wear down and drag out custody litigation cause the other side to run out of money, then you win. So that is what her attorney tried to do. They even hired a “private investigator”, Marcelo Molfino.


They hired Marcelo Molfino to download my cell phones and allege that not all the data was turned over so that they could try to get all evidence tossed out in the case on a technicality. My side hired our own, more reputable private digital forensics, Red Forensics, from out of town who determined that not only was the report and data from Molfino false and misleading, but it also apeared as though Marcelo Molfino was practicing as a private investigator without a license. So I blew the whistle on Marcelo Molfino with the State of Texas, and the Texas DPS determined that Marcelo Molfino was practicing without a license which is a Class A Misdemeanor. And that is where my real troubles began. You see, Marcelo Molfino was the lead Criminal Investigator for Jefferson County District Attorney Bob Wortham. Not only did I uncover the illegal activity of Marcelo Molfino in my case, I then discovered many other instances where Molfino was violating the law and using his position in the DA office to oppress people. Through Open Records Requests, I even discovered false contradicting statements on government documents, and uncovered many instances where he would get paid by people in the “private civil arena” and then turn around and try to get people charged criminally under his criminal prosecution hat against the people he was paid privately to oppose. The Texas DPS asked the Jefferson County DA if he would be filing charges against Molfino, and the DA said no. The DA decides who to protect and who to prosecute. After protecting his investigator Molfino from criminal charges that I blew the whistle on, the DA Bob Wortham then put Marcelo Molfino on a mission to personally bring false charges against me using the power of his prosecution office. Can anyone say clear conflict of interest? This was done for 2 reasons. This persecution against me was done in retaliation against me for my whistleblower complaint to silence me and discredit my complaints against Marcelo Molfino, and it was also done because, as would come out in criminal trial testimony, my ex wife, at the direction of her attorney, paid Marcelo Molfino at least $1500 cash shortly before Molfino brought false charges against me. She even went to the Jefferson County Courthouse government building to meet Marcelo Molfino as part of this “private exchange” of services, according to trial transcripts.

After nearly 2 years of a custody battle, the money ran out for me to fight and I offered my ex-wife 50/50 custody of our son, which she accepted. Her acceptance was just another trick though as her acceptance was only so she could get the custody case against her out of the way so that she could transfer the proceedings to Jefferson County to do an immediate modification custody suit to change the child custody order to try to take my son from me. She brought the case to Judge Larry Thorne, who her attorney had made a rare large donation to. Judge Larry Thorne would later be found by the State of Texas as having accepted tend of thousands of illegal contributions from attorneys and fined nearly $40,000 (Click Here to see Order against Judge Larry Thorne). Not surprisingly, the local DA Bob Wortham who holds the power to prosecute, did not prosecute judge Larry Thorne for the felony violations the state found him to have violated.

So back to the custody case, only a month after accepting the final 50/50 custody agreement order which I hoped would bring stability to my son’s life, and after years of a bitter divorce case in which she swore against any allegations of family violence from me,  my ex-wife simply then went to Jefferson County Investigator Marcelo Molfino and paid him cash money. She then filed criminal complaints alleging that, three years earlier, even before the divorce started, she felt “alarmed” when I, while we were married, went to a parking lot to get my son from an abandoned car. So she filed felony “stalking family violence” charges against me as her basis of trying to change the agreed custody order with the new Judge Larry Thorne. The DA’s office of course fast tracked a prosecution against me with Marcelo Molfino at the helm. Molfino was under investigation at the time as a result of my complaint BEFORE he brought retaliatory charges against me. Even worse, Molfino was paid cash money by my ex. Literally the prosecutors office was taking money “bribes” to prosecute, and they put Molfino directly on the case to silence me and discredit my legitimate complaints against him which were validated by the state of Texas. That wasn’t enough to silence me and I kept fighting and I kept investigating, so then Molfino personally wrote out an affidavit alleging I am a liar and charged me with felony perjury. What better way to discredit your accuser than to bring false perjury charges against him so you can just say don’t believe him he is charged with perjury. At one point the DA wanting a ONE MILLION dollar bond or NO BOND. I guess the only way to keep me from talking to the Texas State investigators was to try to put me, a non violent political adversary, in permanent confinement with bond higher than an alleged murderer.

I fought and I exposed and finally one by one the charges went away. Felony Stalking case dismissed. Felony Perjury case dismissed. I have never been convicted and have never pled guilty and never been found guilty. I have been vindicated with all criminal cases now gone away. Of course you won’t find word of my cases dismissed in the news like I was in the news when the DA’s office sent word to the news stations of my initial arrests so they could parade my mugshot though the news and all but convict me before a trial.

This story I bring to light only touches the surface of the roller coaster ride I have experienced, and barely addresses all the instances of criminal activity and corruption I uncovered involving the Jefferson County District Attorney’s office. There have been many less fortunate than me who might have pled guilty just to cut a deal to get out of the false prosecution, or maybe they were found guilty based off of fabricated evidence. I will continue to fight to protect and defend the Constitution and the rights that everyone should enjoy by fighting and exposing corruption.

The big news to top off my vindication from the false prosecution by Jefferson County, is that the Texas Rangers have officially and formally opened a criminal investigation against Jefferson County for abuse of office and official oppression against me. Yes, the Jefferson County Criminal District Attorney Bob Wortham and his office are under official criminal investigation by the Texas Rangers with a special prosecutor even having been appointed from another county.

So I am back! I got to settle down for a bit and I have a beautiful wife, Denise, son and stepson, and baby boy arriving next month! I will be writing and blogging more about politics I am passionate about and about political news, with a focus on the broken family court system that needs drastic reform to save and stabilize children and society, as well as a focus on public corruption and criminal justice which need drastic reforms to prevent innocent people from going to jail due to faulty or fabricated evidence and a lack of Constitutional protections and due process,  and due to even intentional false prosecutions that are rampant and allowed to happen.

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

David Bellow files to run for District Attorney against DA who Falsely Charged Him

For Official Release 12/12/2017:

David Bellow files to run for District Attorney against DA who Falsely Charged Him

Hopes to Draw Attention to Corruption Within Current Jefferson County DA’s Office

Yesterday I filed to run for Criminal District Attorney of Jefferson County, Texas. The chances of me winning are admittedly not very high, but that is not why I decided to run. I decided to run to give the people a choice and force the issues of corruption and illegal activity within the Current DA’s office to be addressed. I have filed today in hopes that, at the very least, a contested race will give the people a voice and a choice, and the issues will have to be addressed and fixed. The people of Jefferson County deserve a fair and just criminal judicial system.

Contested elections are an important part of democracy. Unopposed candidates are never held accountable and never have to address the issues and problems facing the people they serve. The Current District Attorney was supposed to be the “anti-corruption DA” but instead, he just ushered in a new era of corruption. There are currently state investigations against Bob Wortham or his staff in the District Attorney’s office. Bob Wortham should be held accountable for engaging in or at least allowing and protecting criminal activity within his own office. He turned his back on the people he is elected to serve by over prosecuting or falsely prosecuting innocent people, and he turned his back on law enforcement and victims who came to him with legitimate concerns and allegations of criminal activity only to be dismissed.

For instance, a current lawsuit filed by former deputy chief of the Port Arthur Police Department alleges that this police officer went to Bob Wortham about Criminal activity within the District Attorney Office but Bob Wortham refused to prosecute and told the Deputy Chief, “That’s my Boy.” This deputy chief was then retaliated against by Bob Wortham and forced to retire, according to the lawsuit.

This allegation of criminal activity being allowed or covered up by the current DA is one of many from many different people from all different ethnic backgrounds and walks of life from Republican to Democrat. My story is one of them too.

Two years ago, I blew the whistle on the lead criminal investigator for Jefferson County District Attorney Bob Wortham.  This investigator, Marcelo Molfino, had been taking money to do illegal work. As more research was done into this investigator, multiple other violations of law and the Constitution were discovered such as falsifying a government document and use of his power to oppress those who opposed him or those he was paid to investigate and charge. After I blew the whistle on this criminal activity, the Texas State DPS Investigator determined that this DA investigator did in fact violate the law. The current DA refused to prosecute his own investigator, and instead put this investigator directly in charge of bringing false charges against me as retaliation and as an attempt to discredit the state investigations against him that I blew the whistle on. The bogus Felony Stalking charge brought against me was dismissed, but the damage that this false charge had done was enormous and life changing.

Unfortunately, many people are not as lucky as me. They either do not have the ability to speak up and fight back, or they are afraid to.

These innocent victims, of the crime and corruption that has been allowed by the current DA, deserve a voice. This campaign for District Attorney against Bob Wortham will give them a voice. It will give them a vehicle in which to come forward and tell their story. It will give the people a voice to express the issues and demand that the Current DA address the problems and clean up the corruption.

So even if the chances are slim that I actually win the race, I have filed yesterday for Criminal District Attorney in hopes that, at the very least, a contested race will give the people a voice and a choice, and the issues will have to be addressed and fixed. The people of Jefferson County deserve a fair and just criminal judicial system.


David Bellow

Candidate for Criminal District Attorney of Jefferson County, TX

Contact Number: 409 656 5128

Question: Do you live in Jefferson County?

Answer: Yes, I have lived in southeast Texas my entire life and currently live in Jefferson County.

Question: Are you an Attorney? Do you have to be an Attorney to run for office?

Answer: No, but I do have a bachelor’s degree in Political Science and a master’s degree and extensive studies in law. You do not have to be an attorney to be eligible to run and eligible to hold office in Texas, according to the Texas Constitution. To be eligible for and qualified for are two different things. Eligibility to be elected and hold office and eligibility to run in Texas require you to be over 18, live in Texas, not have been convicted of a felony, etc. I meet those requirements and am eligible to be a candidate and hold office in Texas. If I win, I would however need to be qualified and meet the qualifications of the office before being able to exercise the duties of the office, such as getting my Attorney’s license. Running for the office alone even without winning will bring about awareness and hopefully a fix to the issues within the current District Attorney’s office, and if by God’s grace the people vote to elect me, the Texas Constitution simply says the current DA continues until his successor is qualified. So I would have time to become qualified and the current DA would continue to be in office until I got my attorney’s license, or possibly I could utilize the licensed assistant district attorneys in the office to perform the prosecuting attorney work until I obtain my Attorney’s license. This is similar to a recent constable election in Jefferson County Texas where the person elected, Nick Saleme, was eligible to run and hold office, but was not qualified to perform the duties of the position until he got his peace officer license.

picture below: David Bellow and Family

Saturday, September 2, 2017

Police have Located my Son across State Lines and he is with me now!

The police have located my son Michael David Bellow III across state lines in Sulphur, LA and removed him from where he was being kept secret from me by my ex wife Courtney Hudson. The police brought my son to me Praise God! Her Attorney Scott Browne tried to tell the police not to give me my son but thank God I had the court order! It is a shame they would not let me know where my son was for a day after driving into the floods and then refuse to let me know where he was so I could get him it make sure he was safe. Thank you everyone!

Friday, September 1, 2017

HELP! My 4 year old son Michael Bellow is missing in Hurricane Harvey Disaster area!

The police have located my son Michael across state lines in Sulphur, LA and removed him from where he was being kept secret from me by my ex wife Courtney Hudson. The police brought my son to me Praise God! Her Attorney Scott Browne tried to tell the police not to give me my son but thank God I had the court order! It is a shame they would not let me know where my son was for a day after driving into the floods and then refuse to let me know where he was so I could get him it make sure he was safe. Thank you everyone!

Latest Update! I STILL DONT KNOW WHERE MY SON IS! she has once again missed the court order time and place to exchange my son to me this afternoon. Yes she did send me a message this afternoon finally saying my son was OK but she has refused to let me know where my son is so that the police can verify his safety and she has further refused to bring him to the court ordered drop off location today and has not even told me where my son is so that I can just go get him myself if she is unable to get him to me. I don't care what her friends and family might say there is zero justification for not at least letting me come pick up my own son during my court ordered time as joint managing conservator. Just like there was no justification to leave me worried sick instead of letting me know my son was OK the past 24 hours. Until his location and safety has been verified there is no question about it my son is still missing I am in charge of his control and possession right now during my time as joint managing conservator and quite frankly I have no idea where he is and anyone who knows where he is has refused to let the police know for me so that we can get him over to me per the court order.

HELP! My 4 year old son Michael David Bellow III is missing in Hurricane Harvey Disaster area!
Beaumont PD missing person case #2017020972

My ex Courtney Hudson this morning said she was leaving with my son this morning to leave Beaumont and all the roads out of Beaumont have water and she has not responded all day. She has missed the drop off for me to have my son and that is very abnormal. Leaving a disaster area is not abnormal of course, but at the least I would have gotten a message saying my son was ok and that ...they couldn't make the drop off or I could go get my son where he is at. She hasn't responded with anything at all since leaving into the floods this morning and I am very concerned this is very abnormal not to hear anything and there is flooding everywhere. I pray they are not in a ditch somewhere flooded out. Please help me find my son and make sure he is ok! The very last I saw my son he was screaming and wailing afraid to leave me to go to his mother and when cps last asked my son about being abused by anyone my son said that his mommy hurts him.(this info is to give you background about why I am so worried for my son because not only has he disappeared in a flood but there is a history of abuse and neglect which greatly upsets me). I am very concerned for my sons safety in general but now that she left through a flood this morning and there has been no response from her at all all day I am very concerned that they didn't make it out of the flood. Please if anyone sees my son let me know or let Beaumont PD know. I believe she drives a grey Kia small SUV.

UPDATE: it has been a few hours now and my son's mother nor anyone from my sons mothers family nor the police have contacted me at all to let me know my son is ok or where he is even at. It has been rumored that she is just hiding him so that she doesn't let me have my son during my time as joint managing conservator and if that is true it is horrible and heartless and a waste of police resources. If my son is ok for goodness sake they should let me know why in the world wouldn't they or anyone let me know? This is messed up please help me find my son I really am worried something has happened I haven't heard from them and the flood waters rose fast and they said they were leaving out this morning straight towards the floods and thee has been silence from them since this morning and they missed the court ordered drop off I am very worried.

UPDATE: it is It Sept. 1, 2017 and since yesterday I have not heard anything from the police or from my son's mother or her family letting me know where my son is and that he is safe:-( help me find my son!

Tuesday, January 31, 2017

Help Dad Fight to Protect his Son! Donate If you Can!

Help Dad Fight for his Son

It is a shame that in Texas, good fathers have to fight to stay in the lives of their children!

Hey I'm David Bellow and I need help to protect and fight for my son Michael. We have been through hell and abuse but they haven't been able to take my son from me yet! Attorneys are not cheap  but are needed for little Michael to have someone to fight to stop people who keep trying to take this little boy away from me, his father. I found an attorney willing to work with me for a good rate so funds will go to Attorney Jonathan Stovall.

Over the years, I have had to save little Michael from being alone and crying in cars in parking lots, to fighting to get me and my son out of physically abusive situations. Apparently when it is a man getting abused it is not taken seriously. After 2 years of battling for full custody, I offered a truce. Instead of me going to trial to get full custody, I offered 50/50 custody to move on and let Michael's life get settled. The final custody agreement was made. I was broke and bankrupt but I fought and won for my son. 

Not a month after the signing of the custody agreement, My ex filed for custody modification and has been trying to keep fighting me to take away my son. I am an outstanding father who goes above and beyond raising my son. My son is very happy with me and he screams and cries anytime I am not there or have to leave. It is very traumatizing for him and he needs some stability in his life and he needs a father. I sold my house and went bankrupt fighting for my son and now I need to raise money to keep fighting for him. 

Most recently, a temporary protective order was issued against the boyfriend of my son's mother due to my son claiming that the man did some bad things to him. When the police started investigation, my son's mother took my son and kept him from me so that the police could not investigate. I had to go to court and get my son back. 

Please if you can give anything do so and I can pay for the attorney representation needed for me to fight for and protect my son.

Thank you!

Little Michael Crying leaving his daddy

Little Michael always happy with his daddy

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

Baseless Indictment tossed - Corrupt Jefferson County D.A. Scrambles to re-indict Whistle Blower David Bellow

The Jefferson County DA had to abandon their original indictment of David Bellow due to the indictment pending being Quashed and dismissed.

This confirms that the original charges were botched, completely baseless, and nothing but a political attack in retaliation for David Bellow being a whistle blower against Jefferson County DA employees over a year ago.

Not willing to admit that they have botched this case from the beginning, the D.A. has redone the original indictment and sent it out to the media as if it was a new charge. It is simply the old charge repackaged in order to try to patch up their completely botched and baseless charges against David Bellow.

The best is yet to come. Soon, David Bellow will be completely vindicated of this malicious prosecution, and the investigation into the Jefferson County DA by the State of Texas will be revealed with details of the illegal activity within the DA's office. Months before David Bellow was ever indicted, David had been the whistle blower into the State investigation of Jefferson County D.A. employees. The DA then retaliated against David Bellow and will have to answer for his actions.

Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Attorney Scott Browne had Stalking/Harassment Charges Pressed Against Him a week before Corrupt Jefferson County DA (his friend) pushed false arrest

Attorney Scott Browne, friend of the Jefferson County DA, had charges pressed against him for stalking/harassment over a week before the Jefferson County DA had me charged for a bogus misdemeanor. Going after me was payback for me going after the corrupt friends of the DA. Several months ago Scott Browne, who is also the attorney for my ex, had threatened me with physical harm and that was witnessed by others and a complaint was filed. Scott Browne then was witnessed by others stalking me around town. Then finally, Scott Browne drove up and down my street, yelling at me, and even stopping in front of my house before I chased him off. This was caught on my security camera, it was on a day he knew I had my toddler son, and this was done with the knowledge that I felt threatened by him since well, he actually threatened to harm me. Also keep in mind that he is still in possession of my garage door opener that he refused to turn over even though I have exclusive possession of my house. And no, $250 per hour lawyers do not do investigations as they cannot even be a fact witness and an attorney on the case. Thy hire people to do that. There is no question Scott Browne was stalking or at least harassing me. When he started stopping in front of my house I finally hade enough and pressed charges against him. Then a week later I get charged with a bogus misdemeanor by Scott's DA buddy whose lead investigator, Marcelo Molfino, is also being investigated by the state thanks to my complaint against him. Do the math.... they are not happy with me so they came after me with anything they could pull straws at. Public corruption at its finest! Thankfully, the evidence is clear and it is Lumberton PD, not Jefferson County, who is doing the investigation against Scott and so the investigation is being done properly. Here is one of the videos, this is one of Scott stopping at the end of my driveway.

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Conservative Blogger David Bellow Retaliated against with False Arrest/Charges by Democrat DA Office he Exposed

Below is my statement regarding the fabricated misdemeanor charge that is widely being reported as against me, David Bellow. Also, the following statement includes detailed information of the political corruption that has brought about this false charge. In short, Jefferson County is one of the most corrupt places in America and I have been involved in exposing this corruption. Most recently, I blew the whistle on a lead investigator within the Jefferson County DA's office, Marcelo Molfino. The State of Texas is currently investigating this DA investigator, whose wife is an assistant DA for Jefferson County, and has already determined that Molfino was in fact violating the law. The Democrat leaders in Jefferson County were not happy and retaliated against me by bringing about a false misdemeanor charge against me involving a custody battle I am involved in where it is well documented that my son and I are victims of repeated domestic violence and child neglect. My wife's attorney, Scott Browne, who is believed to have an eye on a Democrat Judge position, has even had stalking charges pressed against him for threatening me with bodily injury and repeatedly passing by and stopping at the end of my driveway. I am confident that these charges against me will be dismissed quickly, but not before they had me arrested and paraded the false information around the news. 
Below is my statement to counter this widely publicized story of my arrest, to expose the public corruption within Jefferson County, and to shed light on the issues of violence against men, and even child abuse, going overlooked, as happened with me and my toddler son.
March 30, 2016
Statement by David Bellow
Beaumont, TX
Addressing the Charge
This misdemeanor charge against me is completely false and I am confident it will be dismissed swiftly as it lacks even basic constitutional requirements for prosecution. This is a personal and political attack that is nothing short of malicious prosecution and public corruption solely administered as retaliation against me for initiating a state investigation against an employee of the Jefferson County District Attorney’s office.
Political Corruption
The Jefferson County District Attorney’s criminal investigator, Marcelo Molfino, is under state investigation because I had blown the whistle on him. In fact, in a letter to the Jefferson County DA’s office, one of the state investigators on the case, Agent Jonathan Oduwole, has already determined that the district attorney investigator Marcelo Molfino had indeed been violating the law. To complicate things even further, Marcelo Molfino’s wife is an assistant District attorney for Jefferson County. Needless to say, the Jefferson County DA swept this Class A Misdemeanor violation by their own DA investigator under the rug. They were not very happy when I pushed for the state to investigate.
Plan of Revenge by the DA
They wanted revenge, so a fabricated misdemeanor charge has been filed against me as you are all now well aware. They parade me in cuffs to be booked; even though for much more serious charges is a very typical and standard procedure to first call the person in question’s lawyer and have said person turn themselves in. They then immediately release to the press that I, David Bellow, had been arrested. The charge on the books? For unlawful installation of a tracking device. However, in the release to the press, they “mistakenly” and conveniently tucked in the phrase, “family violence”, at the end. The charge currently against me has nothing to do with family violence nor have there ever been any like charges ever in the past and there never will be. Those words, “family violence”, are not even mentioned in the penal code regarding unlawful installation of a tracking device. I have never even been accused of violence in any form or fashion, nor have I ever become violent in my life. But they knew that before their deceptive “error” of classification could be corrected by the media, it would have already done the damage they desired for it to do.
Plea to the Media
I know the media will do the right thing and make a correction to their stories that included anything about the undocumented and illusively false claims of family violence. In all actuality, the only person who has ever been reported to have committed family violence with charges requested to be pressed against them is Courtney Bellow. Their plan with this fabricated and pretentious show is nothing but a defamatory attempt to openly discredit my kind, honest nature.
Goal of the Corrupt Scandal and My Response
Well with the power that drives their corruption, it has seemingly worked, they got their dog and pony show hoping I would be embarrassed and hide my head in the sand. But like Governor Rick Perry, when he was falsely indicted in a political attack, I hold my head high and am confident that this charge will be dismissed. I am even more determined to expose the political corruption that still runs deep in Jefferson County. I am even, in a way, thankful for the dog and pony show that they have tried to use to harm me, as it now has given me a platform to expose their corruption and shed light on the truth. It also allows me to shed light on a massive problem facing America: Child Custody and the disadvantage good fathers face in custody battles, and also domestic violence against men that gets overlooked.
The Brutal Truth Behind It All
Everything going on, up to and including even this current charge against me, originates from a bitter and bloody two (2) yearlong custody battle between myself and my wife. For years my wife, Courtney Hudson Bellow, physically abused me and my son and the abuse has been well documented. But don’t take my word for it. Courtney herself has admitted in her own under oath deposition to being physically violent with me, and has admitted in that same deposition that I never hit her even after she would beat up on me. She has admitted in her under oath deposition to abandoning our, at the time, one-year-old son, alone in cars in parking lots on multiple occasions for extended periods of time while she was in a truck with the man she was having an affair with. The police even had to be called when I took my son to get allergy tested and she showed up and demanded that my son not get tested even though I had a doctor’s order. Thankfully I got him tested and found out that he was highly allergic to milk. The abuse on my person runs greater. Even to this day after so many years, still have a scar on my back where my wife burned me with a hot iron while I slept.
I Tried to Get HELP But Only Got Hurt - Church Corruption
I loved Courtney and wanted her to get help, and wanted to preserve the marriage, and didn’t want to embarrass her and myself, so I reached out to Board Certified Counselor Larry Walker at First Baptist Church of Beaumont looking for guidance. Larry Walker documented the domestic violence and diagnosed her with a psychological disorder. He then failed to report the abuse, especially the child neglect, to the police as his state certification requires. The system overlooked abuse against men as it unfortunately very often does. Thankfully the state takes the laws seriously and, you guessed it, the State is investigating Larry Walker too. Like Molfino, it is clear the law was broken by Larry Walker. With Courtney working at the church with Larry, believe it or not as director of child care, I can see why the church leadership would look the other way and try to bury this. The church is growing and trying to build, and “un-Christ like” acts in exposure through publicity would certainly hinder that. Not to mention, Scott Browne, Courtney’s divorce attorney, is also the Church’s attorney and a major financial contributor to the church. Don’t get me wrong, I believe the FBC church leaders are generally good people and Pastor Christopher Moody even preaches some of my favorite sermons. I certainly love the people of the church and my son was even dedicated there. But even good people make mistakes, and it is important, especially for leaders who set the example, to acknowledge and repent of their mistakes and move forward in the amazing Grace of God, not hide from and bury their sin and put children at danger by allowing admitted abusers and child neglecters to work in child care without even taking steps to protect the children, as Mark Adams failed to do. I want the church to grow and be strong, not weakened by burying scandals. It is especially wrong that the Church, behind the backs of the members of the congregation, has used police force to not allow some worshipers to attend the church, simply because they disagree with the church’s handling of this scandal.
Corrupted Divorce Lawyer
Speaking of Scott Browne, you probably have never heard about the stalking charges being pressed against him as the up and coming Democrat attorney; who is rumored to be eying a Judge seat in Jefferson County to seemingly further spread such corruption. He has threatened me with bodily injury in front of several witnesses which is not a good load to carry in his position. I then had to press charges when Scott Browne was caught in my home video surveillance stopping in front of my house and driving by numerous times.
My Current Position with Fear of My Son’s Well Being
I currently have 50/50 custody, but it was an uphill battle just get 50/50, even though by all accounts I am an amazing father and caregiver to my son, and Courtney has admitted to domestic violence and leaving our son in cars in parking lots. Our son is even coming home now with welts on his legs and saying mommy spanked him. He is only 3 and is very good and sweet. I even have had a cashier from Petsmart who never met me contact me concerned that Courtney had our son walking with no shoes on a dirty cold ground (there was frost it was so cold). Corruption in Beaumont PD and DA Beaumont PD investigator C. Phillips has yet to act on any of this domestic violence and child neglect that Courtney has herself admitted in her under oath testimony. Officer Phillips claims that leaving a one-year-old child in a car alone for an extended period of time is not illegal, even though the penal code is very clear that leaving a one-year-old in a car for over 5 minutes without someone in the car with the child is unlawful. Why does the Beaumont PD investigator Phillips not know the law, or at least refusing to follow the law? Interestingly enough, Investigator Phillips recently sent me a letter stating that assault causing bodily injury, which I had filed against my wife, was only a class “C” charge and so the PD would not even investigate it, even though the penal code clearly defines assault with bodily injury as a Class “A”. The same C. Phillips readily jumps at the chance to bring a bogus, politically driven misdemeanor charge against me. Some of these reports against Scott Browne and Courtney Bellow have been filed in Hardin County and the Lumberton PD, and I am confident that they will not sweep things under the rug like Beaumont and Jefferson has as Lumberton PD has proven to be fair.
Jefferson County District Attorney Bob Wortham himself, after the investigation started against Molfino, personally attended one of my custody dispute hearings. He wanted to find something against me to get back at me, but I simply had not done anything wrong. I have even had major Democrat power attorney Chip Ferguson pop his head up in my custody dispute. They hate my conservative values and they hate that I got the state involved in uncovering the corruption of their friends.
Truth About Family Court Fairness on Men
Besides the added element of political dislike that some may have against me that has driven this charge against me, men in general have a hard time getting justice after being physically assaulted by their wife, and most men do not even report domestic violence against them. Even worse, a good loving father still has to fight to even get “half time” with their child as I’ve gotten, EVEN WHEN the mother readily admits and does not believe it is wrong to leave her child in cars in parking lots, and abusing the child and the child’s father. The biggest victim though is the child. In this case, my son, who is being abused and neglected and who, had I not fought, would not get to see his father half of the time. Shared custody, standing against domestic violence, and ending public corruption, is highly favored by the people. Yet we still have public corruption running rampant. We still have many older investigators, and even many older judges, who still do not take abuse against men seriously, and who automatically give only standard visitation to fathers, regardless of how bad the mother is.
My Feelings Through It All
I am not mad nor do I hate anyone, although I do believe that the people that have been referenced above should be held accountable for their actions. I am certainly saddened that we still live in a world where abuse against men is not taken seriously and a good father still has to fight to get shared custody with their child. I am disappointed that public corruption still runs rampant and malicious prosecution can still be used against people.
My Plea for Prayers
For these reasons I ask my friends and fellow community members, and fellow Christians to pray. Pray for me and my son, and pray for these disappointing situations such as this that are very much still a part of our society. Though most go unnoticed, there is ONE who knows all. We thank Jesus for His Saving Grace where none are too far for His reach.
Thank you and God Bless!
Michael David Bellow Jr.


Monday, November 16, 2015

Help Father Protect Son from Abuse - Uphill Battle for Men in Custody Battles

Even in situations where there is clear abuse and neglect on the part of the mother, a father, many times, has an uphill battle to protect their children and get more than just visitation.

Unfortunately, I have had to fight that battle with my own precious little boy. Below the story of what happened with me and my son. I hope that others will have the courage to fight for father's rights and push for equality within the judicial system in Texas and the rest of America. It should not have taken me a year and a half and over 50k to fight for even half time with my son who faced so much abuse and neglect.

Please donate if you can as I have a mountain of legal fees I am still facing. Thanks!

Help Father Protect Son from Abuse

Baby Michael has been the victim of abuse and neglect, both physical and emotional. Michael was abandoned, crying in cars in parking lots while his mother was having an affair in a different vehicle. He has been denied medical care to the point where the police had to be called on his mother by the medical staff. Michael's mother is violent with baby Michael and his father. Michael's mother, Courtney Hudson, has admitted to much of this, including leaving Michael in cars and not thinking there is anything wrong with it. Below I have posted pictures/videos below of bruises and burns and other documents/information. 

Michael's father is fighting to protect him.
Michael’s father, David Bellow, is at a disadvantage though since there is still an injustice, in not only the judicial system when it comes to a father gaining custody of a child even when they are clearly the more reliable, stable, and secure parent, but in our society as well when it comes to a husband being abused by his wife. Michael’s father is hoping to overcome these inequalities in our culture to keep his son safe but he needs your help.  

Michael’s father, as any good parent, could never live with himself if, God forbid, something did happen resulting in injury or death to his son, and he had not done everything in his power to protect him.  Therefore, he is reaching out to you to bring awareness to what is going so people will not only know how to pray, but to also raise funds in order to legally secure the safety of his child in regards to custody (decision making).

Please, on behalf of baby Michael, take the time to scroll through, read the information below, see the pictures, and watch the videos so you can so you see exactly what is going on and why it is so important:

This video has a lot of the pictures and videos all put together showing the abuse and neglect and Michael crying not wanting to leave daddy to go to mommy:

Michael's mother just cannot grasp the danger she puts Michael in, nor can she understand the consequences. She readily puts her own desires above Michael's basic needs. She even refuses to put shoes on Michael at exchanges in cold weather, even though the father provides shoes for him to wear, because her desire to remain mad at the father (for no real reason) comes before her own son’s need for warmth. She admits in her own testimony to leaving one year old Michael alone in cars and she doesn't understand what is wrong with it. She needs help. She has been diagnosed with one psychological disorder that we know of, but she refuses to get help. Baby Michael needs both a mother and a father.  The father is certainly not trying to take a child away from his mother.  He still wants Michael to spend as much time with his mother as he does.  At the same time though, Michael's mother is incapable of making decisions (which is what custody would grant) that are in Michael’s best interest (and not her own). She has hurt him and will hurt him again. Michael needs to be safe from harm in a stable, non-violent home.  Baby Michael's father provides that home and environment. Please help so the father can pay the legal fees needed to protect him and of course, please pray. That almost goes without saying but prayer is the most crucial need in any circumstance so it should be emphasized.  Especially since, there is a double standard that Michael's father has to fight. If the roles here were reversed, Michael's father would be in jail and there would be no question about custody.  But because Michael's father is a guy, it is an uphill battle to protect Michael and keep him safe, sadly, from his own mother. That, unfortunately, is the hard truth, and it does no good to her or to their child to deny or hide that fact as hard as it may be to accept. 

Right now, when Michael is with his mother, Michael's grandmother drives over from Houston to help his mother with her decisions. Initially, when Michael’s mother was on her own she would forget about pick-ups and drop offs so the grandmother drives her daughter to nearly every drop off and pick up. As soon as the custody trial is over though, her mother will likely stop keeping such a close eye on her and that is when the danger to Michael significantly increases because then there will be no one there to help Michael when is mother makes rash and violent decisions regarding his well-being putting him in harm’s way as she has done several times before.

Here is a video with pics and videos put together of Baby Michael happy and loved and taken care of with Daddy:

Some things you just don't talk about. This is one of them. Embarrassment, fear of ridicule, keeping personal matters private, etc. I have kept quiet about the abuse and neglect since my wife left me and filed for divorce over a year and a half ago. Many friends and relatives do not even know everything that is going on and I probably would have never reached out like this except that now, I need help to be able to protect my son. I am fighting to protect my son from neglect and abuse we both have been going through. I have already spent and borrowed over $40,000 for attorney fees and I just have no more loan or credit options before my custody trial.  And I cannot liquidate the few assets I have left (so no selling of even things I owned before we were married) since all material possessions are still frozen over year and a half later after she filed for divorce.  This is due to the fact that my wife and her attorney refuse to settle inventory before trial even though I have already given all of the items she initially requested and have even agreed to give her everything else she decided she wanted since then which is more than half.

Baby Michael Abandoned in Cars in Parking Lot While Mother Had Affair

I'll never forget the screaming, crying and red face my little one year old baby Michael had when I found him alone in a car in Ritter Lumber Parking Lot in Beaumont, TX. He had been abandoned in the car for a good while by the time I showed up and took him out. My wife was having an affair in a different vehicle, and she didn't even know I was there until I knocked on the window of the truck she was in sitting on another man's lap and kissing him, the radio blaring which drowned out the noise of little Michael weeping in the other car. Baby Michael could have been dead, kidnapped, choking, etc., and she would have never known. Come to find out, my wife admitted in testimony that she left him in cars regularly to meet another man, not just this instance, and she doesn't seem to even grasp that it was wrong. That scares me as much as the physical violence my son and I have faced from her. What do I tell my son when he sees the scar on my back from where my wife burned me with a hot iron while I slept? How do I erase the memories from his mind of me holding him in my arms and him squealing as his mother hit me, bit me, and kicked me? How do I keep a sincere face when telling my 2 year old son that it will be ok (even though I am not sure it will be) when he is crying and begging to stay with daddy and not to go to mommy nearly every time he goes from me to her? She actually snaps at Michael and gets mad at him for not wanting to leave daddy instead of consoling him. She even denies him medical care like when he was having allergic reactions and the cops had to be called on her because I took him to get medical attention when she didn't think he needed it so she showed up and demanded that they not check him out. Because it was such a common normal procedure that could help our son, you probably wouldn't believe that she didn’t want to get him tested if there was not a 911 recording of the incident when medical supervisor called the 911 on her. I don't hate her I pray for her. Baby Michael needs both a mom and a dad, but she needs help and is not capable of making even reasonably good decisions for him. She isn’t intending to do harm, but she does because she cannot understand, or refuses to understand what is right and wrong. She has been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder which contributes to her rash, sometimes violent decisions and she needs help. She won’t get help though and instead she filed for divorce and is trying to keep my son from me. My son is in danger from her bad decisions and violence and I need help protecting him because I have run out of resources. Even with the mountain of evidence showing she has abused and neglected me and my son, including her own admissions in testimony, I still face an uphill battle in custody simply because I am a guy. I have spent way more than I can afford in legal fees and I have nowhere else to borrow from. But I will stop at nothing (and cannot give up for Michael’s sake) to what I truly feel I need to do to keep my baby boy safe.  So I am reaching out to friends and family who might feel led to help.  At the very least, you all can keep us in your prayers.  If you can give even a small amount though, please do so, and spread the word to any friends or family who might be interested in helping. I ask though that you not post this publicly and that you prayerfully consider who you share this page with - only sharing with those you really think might help (prayerfully or financially).  I am trying to share our story to relay a need and request prayer, while still trying to be as sensitive as possible to those involved, including my wife.  I do still care about her and her family so I do not wish to humiliate her or anyone else. Thanks. 

Physical Abuse - Domestic Violence

Here are some of the pictures of things she has done to me and baby Michael. She even burned me on the back with an iron while I was sleeping:

My wife, Courtney, would leave my precious one year old alone in cars in parking lots in Beaumont, TX while she was having an affair with another man, Lamar, in a different vehicle. She is physically abusive with me and my son. She not only scratches and bruises me, but she even burned me on the back while I slept. She has been diagnosed with a psychological disorder which was apparent to the counselor in the couple of times I have been able to get her to go talk to a professional. I do not believe she intentionally wants to hurt Michael, but she just cannot grasp the consequences of her actions and how it hurts her son. She puts her desires over his own safety and doesn't believe it is wrong. If you passed her on the street in public you would never know that she was even capable of the things she has done and has admitted in testimony to doing. She needs help. She has denied him medical care and even had the cops called on her when she tried to keep me from taking him to a potential life-saving medical exam. He cries for daddy and says no mommy nearly every time he leaves me to go to her. Unfortunately, the list goes on. 

I do not believe in divorce and I begged her to get help for Michael's sake and as a Christian to keep the marriage together. She refused to get help and filed for divorce and tries to keep Michael from me. Now, I am fighting for literally my son's life in a custody battle. That is just a quick overview of what is going on. Below is more detailed information. Please, if you can help out do it and discreetly share this with others who might could help. My son needs to be protected and even with a mountain of proof showing abuse and neglect done to me and my son, and even with state law that is supposed to prohibit those who have a history of child neglect and domestic violence (like Courtney) from getting custody, it is still an uphill, expensive battle for me because I am a guy. Most people settle and don't fight because of the cost and toll it takes. I don't care if I have nothing in the end as long as I keep my son safe. Material things of this world are not important.

Psychological Disorders

In the limited times I have been able to get her to seek professional help, she was diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and I know it is much more than that. I don't hate her and I want Michael to equally see his mother and father, she just needs help and is a danger to her own son and has a hard time comprehending right from wrong, like her not thinking it is wrong to leave a one year old baby in a car in a parking lot. There have been two occasions where Courtney got upset and got in her car with Michael. The first time, she crashed into the garage, and on another occasion, into my brother's car. She was so worried about me seeing her iPad (which had messages to/from Lamar) when I got home that as soon as I pulled up she ran inside to get her iPad and left one year old Michael alone in the street!

Baby Michael denied Medical Care - Medical Staff called Police on Mother

Baby Michael would get an allergic reaction that seemed to get progressively worse. His stomach would hurt and he would get painful looking red rash around his mouth, congestion, and puffy eyes. I recognized the signs of an allergic reaction from my army training as a combat medic and EMT so I told his mother on numerous occasions that I wanted to take Michael to go get an allergy test before it gets worse. She refused to agree with me and said nothing was wrong and he didn’t need medical attention. I took him anyways knowing that he could die from a severe reaction. She showed up and demanded that they not give Michael the allergy test. They had to call 911 on her and have the police come over because she was causing a scene and was telling the staff that she was not going to let them give Michael a quick and simple blood draw to test for allergies. I had a Doctor’s order and I am the father so I got him allergy tested. Come to find out, he is highly allergic to cow's milk. We would have kept giving him milk had we not found out and he might have had a really bad reaction one day.

Below are the notes from Police regarding the police being called because mother did not father to get Michael medical attention with a Doctor's order:

Physical Abuse - Domestic ViolenceUnfortunately, that is all just a small glimpse of what has been going on all of these years. Not long after we got married, my wife started getting physically violent. The violence got worse over time and it wasn’t long before I was having to wear long sleeve shirts to cover the bloody scrapes and bruises. One night I woke up to her burning me on the back with a hot iron. Can you realize the pain and embarrassment I felt when I had to, for instance, joke at work that my wife gave me a hickey on my neck to cover for the fact that she had hit me and scratched me on my head and neck the night before? She was starting to hurt Michael too because her blows would sometimes hit little Michael too as I held him to protect him from her. Her frustration started to be directed towards him too. When Michael wasn’t even one year old she would spank him for not eating with a fork and yank down his arm to pick up a ball when he didn't even understand what she wanted him to do. At only six months old, she would get on to him and tell him “No” very harshly just for whimpering – something every baby does.

Emotional Trauma
Needless to say, Michael is traumatized from all of this. He wants both a mommy and daddy and doesn’t understand what is going on. He is terrified anytime I even leave the room. Not that he doesn’t love his mommy and not that he doesn’t have fun with her, but when it is time to exchange Michael, Michael knowns who is safe and more loving and wants to stay with me. He has never once cried leaving his mother to go to me. Little Michael cries for daddy nearly every time he has to leave me and he even cries and says no mommy right to her face. Instead of consoling him, she chastises him for saying no mommy. When I have him for extended times, I let him call his mommy if he wants or if she wants. When she has him she refuses to let him talk to me even though it would soothe and comfort him.  I let her talk to Michael though when I have him anytime she asks and I have even offered it to her myself, but yet, she doesn't let Michael call me or me call Michael. She even admitted in her testimony that when she has him, she ignores my phone calls when I am just trying to call and talk to my son because I know it would help him since he misses me and is too young to understand what is going on. But she doesn’t think he needs to talk to his daddy so for the past year and a half, I have not been able to talk to my son on the phone when she has him to tell him goodnight or that I miss him or anything else a father should be able to say to his son.  Even during the marriage she would do everything she could to keep him away from me. I still have the messages that I would have to send to her and her best friend, Mary, begging them to stop taking Michael and running around and asking with them to let me be with my son and that I would even come to them. Who has to plead to their wife's best friend to please tell them where they are eating lunch with his son after church so he can join them after working an overnight shift? It was actually Mary who introduced Courtney to the Lamar and even invited them to her house together (without me) after it was clear they were having an affair. Courtney would not just run around to keep me from my son. Even in my own home, she would get violent even if I just wanted to pick up my son and hold him. She didn’t want me to be able to have anything to do with him. She locked him in the bedroom at night with her for over a year never letting me have the joy of snuggling with my son while putting him to bed. My wife and I might be separate, but Michael isn't separate from his mother and father and he needs both to be able to help him through this difficult transition.  He should be able to rest assured and feel secure that he still has a mother and father no matter who has “possession” of him that day. It should be Michael's needs above our desires, but Courtney refuses to do that.

Reached out for two years to our Pastor, Counselor and her parents for help
For two straight years during the end of our marriage (which was also practically the beginning since we had only been married for a relatively short time before then), I reached out to her parents, our pastor, counselors, and begged for help, telling them specifically that she was beating me up, sending some of them pictures of my bruises and scratches and pleading for help. Could I have easily hit her back? Sure. But I didn't because I don't think it is ever right for a man to hit a woman.  Also, I still wanted it to work out because I believe in marriage.  I believe in “for better or for worse” and I really believed that if we went to pastors and counseling and to her parents that they would persuade her to get help and things would get better. I was wrong. She didn't want help and a few of the people I reached out to didn’t seem to want to help.  They seemed to just want to make excuses for her behavior with some in her family even going as far as telling my family that I didn’t try hard enough or didn’t love her enough.  I am sorry but there is no excuse for leaving your child in a car to have affairs, for burning someone with a hot iron while they sleep, and for trying to keep a son away from his loving and caring father.

There were some who I believe wanted to help like our Pastor at First Baptist Beaumont, Chris Moody, who did meet with us several times.  But I don’t think he was even sure how to help because he said that she has hate in her eyes more than he has seen in anyone else and he doesn’t understand it.  Many others don’t understand it as well, because there is no reasonable explanation.  It is an irrational unprovoked hatred.  A hatred that has put her own son at risk and will continue to unless she receives the help she needs.  Our pastor also said if she doesn’t get help the violence will just continue onto her next man. Even the psychologist we went and saw made the same comment to me that Michael could get hurt, even with my wife not beating up on me anymore, because little Michael will still be in the middle if his mother gets violent with future boyfriends or with him; especially since my wife didn’t just start getting violent with me. She has a history of getting upset and lashing out at her family, friends, and previous boyfriends.

Even though our pastor wanted to help, I feel like everywhere I turned (even to good people I still respect like my pastor), it did not seem like Michael and I got the support that we needed – the help that I feel a woman who was in an abusive relationship would have gotten.  This may have been partly due to the fact that I am a man in a domestic violence situation which is less common, and partly because many I reached out to were her own friends and family (hoping they could intervene) so they just didn’t want to believe that their loved one would do such horrible things.  Courtney is very sweet to others and appears innocent to the outside world (which is one reason I fell in love with her myself) so I can see how it would be unbelievable.  I was even in denial myself when it first started happening. Now though, we have her own testimony admitting to many of these acts of abuse and neglect. Otherwise, it is hard to believe.

Suspected child neglect and domestic violence should always be taken seriously though especially by the church where Courtney worked (and still works) in childcare.  And it was my understanding that Mark Adams, the Executive Pastor, was going to look into it since he is the one who deals with employees. But I do not know if it was ever fully investigated because I was never approached about the situation. Whatever the reason, the extent of everything is now known and there obviously was not an adequate and appropriate response to suspected child neglect and spousal abuse by one of the church’s childcare workers. Please know that I do not think my church leaders are bad and I love my church so I am not trying to paint them or anyone else in a bad light.  It happened the way it happened though and I am simply trying to share my story in its entirety. This is in order for you to fully understand the situation and how it brought me to where I am now – a father who is now reaching out to you because over the several years, he has exhausted all of his resources for help (even from those in position to really make a difference).  

The following messages show that nearly 2 years before Courtney filed for divorce, I started reaching out for help because Courtney was getting violent and abusive:

Before my wife left me, I finally convinced her to go to Larry Walker, a board certified counselor, believing he would know how to help me and Michael with the violence and child neglect because he has a Christian Counseling center at the church. I was wrong again. He diagnosed my wife with an anxiety disorder, according to his notes, and he told her that CPS could have taken Michael if they would have found him in the car alone. But then this Christian marriage and family counselor referred her the name of Scott Browne, a divorce lawyer, and even gave her his number! That advice from a trusted source was all she needed to completely quit trying.  After that, she retained that attorney and there has been no hope for reconciliation ever since.  My family and I have tried to reach out to Courtney telling her that while we don’t agree with her behavior, we still love her and are here for her.  But Scott, who is also a Christian and a member of the church as well, has threatened harassment against us for simply trying to reconcile to some degree for Michael’s sake. So now, we cannot contact her regarding anything but logistic about Michael.  How can there be reconciliation though without communication? I do not understand why both of these Christian men have not promoted the gospel of reconciliation (even to some degree) in their professions and have actually encouraged division.  Separating us doesn’t help Courtney with her ongoing problems and it certainly does not help little Michael.  It only puts him in more danger because I have always been there to protect him. And not to mention, that if they truly cared about Michael’s well-being, they would at least be trying to help her with the issues.  Come to find out, as a board certified counselor Larry was actually supposed to report the abuse and neglect (clearly documented in his notes) in order to protect Michael but he didn’t. He did however accurately diagnose Courtney and even tried to bill insurance for “treatment” of the disorder. So long story short, counseling did not help for the many apparent reasons even though the problems (her disorder, abuse, and child neglect) were clearly seen. It is difficult though for counselors who are good friends with their clients to report child abuse. But this is exactly why laws against dual relationships protect the innocent and especially the children involved. Larry should have reported the abuse, and although I am not angry because I know God has a plan for everything, I am very disappointed and hurt because he seemingly looking the other way which has resulted in pain for my child this last year and a half that could have been prevented. Had Larry reported the abuse like the law said he was supposed to then Michael would have been spared the last year and a half of physical and emotional abuse because Courtney would have been forced by Child Protective Services to get help instead of encouraged by a counselor to get an attorney who probably just sees her as a paying client. 

As far as trying to get help from her parents, that was a dead end. And it wasn't because they didn't believe me. They did believe that Courtney was being physically abusive and they acknowledged that she had been violent in the past. She even disappeared one day and couldn't be reached when she was 20 and they had to call the police and put out a missing person alert. When she came back home she refused to cooperate with police. So the parents know what her issues are, but for whatever reason, were not any help to me or Michael. To be fair, for a while, the parent's (and everyone else) were lied to by Courtney. Her parent and Mary found out about Lamar and Courtney before I did but instead of telling me they blindly believed their daughter and friend when she told them that she was not running around with another guy anymore and that she never kissed him or anything like that. But she had and now they know from Courtney’s own admission in her deposition that that she not only kissed Lamar, she left their grandbaby alone in another car to sit in his a lap in another car. Not only was she meeting him but when she wasn’t physically with him, she was still with him since she was spending almost every minute of the day on the phone with this other guy. The phone records show literally thousands of calls and texts between Courtney and Lamar. My first thought as a parent, and I would think for anyone who cares about a child in their life, was “who was watching our baby when she distracted by and wrapped up in making/receiving all these calls and text messages?” 

As you can see, seeking help with a pastor, parents and counselor didn’t get my anywhere for whatever reasons, so now I am now having to fight for my son in a very expensive custody battle.

Hind sight is 20/20, so I do realize now that calling the police would have been the best thing to do but it is hard to call the cops on a loved one when you still want to save your still fairly new marriage. I did seek help though in places that I believed I would get help like pastors and counselors (and it is documented thankfully), but I should have just called the police myself. I guess when you love someone you just want it to work out, don’t realize the severity of it, don’t want to embarrass the spouse you still love by calling the authorities, think maybe their actions are somehow your fault, and ultimately, hope they will get better. Before I was married I never understood why battered spouses did not just call the police. Well I understand it now. In some ways, it may be harder for guys to seek help because, well, we are guys and are tough and can handle the abuse, right? Male or female, it doesn't matter, abuse against either gender is wrong and is very damaging, mentally and physically, to not only the spouse but their children as well.

The truth is, according to the facts presented and her own admissions, that she has left Michael in cars, denied him medical treatment, and has gotten physically violent. She needs help and I have to win custody (decision making) of my son in order to protect him. Not that I want to keep my son away from his mother because I don’t. Michael needs both a mother and a father and needs to see them both equally. His mother just cannot make good decisions for him and Michael is in very real danger of getting abused or neglected again. She needs help especially because of her disorder but since she refuses it then, I have no choice but to now let a jury decide custody. That is why I have to fight for custody (decision making rights) in court because it is what is best for Michael.

I do not want to go to trial as I know it will be very embarrassing for not only Courtney but many others involved as well.  I wish she and her attorney would have accepted my many fair and reasonable offers to settle (giving Courtney equal time with our son, supervised while she gets treatment for Michaels safety, and offering Courtney more than 50/50 of the community property) but they still refuse to accept anything that allows Michael to be with his father half of the time, so it goes to a Jury of 12 in the middle of November to decide the fate of my son. Please be in prayer because I know God can do anything between now and then. I am absolutely the best provider for Michael and there is more than enough evidence proving that Michael and I are and have been hurt by my wife, but I am still at a disadvantage because I am a guy and she is a girl.  Even though the Supreme Court has said that a judge cannot include gender in their reasons for granting custody, everyone knows that it still happens all too often even when the father is the best provider for their child.  I didn't want this and I do not even believe in divorce. But it is happening whether I like it or not and I have to protect my son. I need help to do that though. Please help, pray, and spread the word to others who might support me (discreetly though, as it is not my intent to “smear” anyone involved). Thanks and God Bless.